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Why should
anyone else be the
Master of your Destiny?
It's all about you.
It's all about choices.
Some people talk a lot
about the kind of life they'd like to have. Other people
do something to make it happen. Which kind are
you?
Deciding to Take a Chance on Yourself
About
ten years ago, a friend of mine named Melissa made a
decision that changed her life. Her school counselor
offered her the chance to become an exchange student
in Europe. She would be living in Germany, France, and
Denmark, learning all about each country's customs,
meeting new people, and picking up some of each language.
No one in Melissa's family had ever traveled far out
of the state they lived in. Her parents were skeptical,
and told her that she should forget it-they didn't have
any extra money to help her with such foolishness. In
fact, no one in Melissa's working-class neighborhood
had ever considered going to Europe. They just hoped
they'd have enough money to pay the rent each month
and buy groceries each week.
Melissa knew it would be easier to stay home, to keep
working part-time and going to school part-time. "After
all," she thought, "who do I think I am? I
really don't know what to expect. I don't know any foreign
languages. I'd probably just make a fool of myself."
If Melissa went to Europe for a year, she wouldn't be
able to work, and she'd be spending the money she'd
worked so hard to save. It would be her first time ever
away from her family and friends, too. What if she got
homesick? And the thing that scared her most was that
when she came back from her adventure, she'd be broke.
She'd have to live at home and rely on her parents until
she could get a job and save enough to move out.
Still,
she couldn't quite forget the idea. Why shouldn't
it be her? After going endlessly back and forth, she
finally decided to take the risk. She could always come
back early if she hated it. She called her school counselor,
who was delighted when Melissa said "Sign me up!"
The counselor was about the only one who seemed happy.
Melissa's family offered no support, emotionally or
financially, and her friends just laughed when she said
she was going to Europe. They finally realized she was
serious when she closed out her savings account and
asked the counselor to drive her to the airport. "We'll
see you in a couple of weeks," her dad laughed
as she walked to the car.
Lessons
Learned
The trip began poorly. The airline bumped Melissa's
entire group, and told them they'd have to wait until
the next day to leave. Although she had never flown
before, Melissa decided if she didn't leave that very
day, she'd chicken out completely. She went from one
ticket counter to another until she found a connection,
spending 10 hours in the airport before leaving on her
first-ever flight. It took so long and she was so nervous
that she began to wonder if she should have listened
to her parents and her friends after all. When she arrived
in Germany the next afternoon, she was exhausted. She
guessed that the weird sleep-deprived feeling she was
experiencing was what people called jet lag. Oddly,
it pleased her somehow to know first-hand what it was.
No one back home knew what jet lag felt like! She handed
the address of her new apartment to the taxi driver,
and paid him in Euros when he dropped her off. Then
she slept for a long, long time.
The
next day, Melissa began exploring her new neighborhood.
She wasn't nervous at all. She found her way to the
nearest travel agency and bought a train pass. Nearly
everyone spoke English and seemed helpful, and the trains
made it easy to get around.
The
next week, she ventured further-to Switzerland. She
went alone because the other students in her group were
apprehensive about traveling outside the "base"
country. Melissa wasn't exactly radiating confidence
herself, but she wanted to see as much as she could
during her time in Europe, and the only way to do that
was to summon up her courage and go. She loved learning
what was beyond the sheltered world she had left behind.
She found that all she really needed was common sense
and a map. From then on, when Friday came, Melissa was
packing her bag for another destination. She saw the
ruins at Rome, the Eiffel Tower, and even the great
pyramids in Egypt. Sometimes she felt like she must
be dreaming-that she'd wake up from this new feeling
of independence, freedom, accomplishment and success.
But she was wide awake, and enjoying every minute.
Melissa's year of travel was a year of revelation for
her. As she studied different cultures and met so many
new people, she realized she had always had an adventurous
spirit and a thirst for knowledge. And if Melissa had
decided to stay in the US, she would never have met
her future husband. She helped him run his restaurant
in Berlin-a new enterprise they enthusiastically shared,
and with great success. They stayed in Germany for another
year before they returned to the States. As it turned
out, Melissa was far from being broke!
So
what's the lesson here? People who don't take risks
don't go far. People who let others make their decisions
for them are rarely happy. And fear is what keeps
99% of people from leading fulfilled, successful lives.
You don't have to let that happen to you. Figure
out what you want, and then go for it!
What
You Need To Know
You
should be steering your own ship. While there will always
be some factors that are out of your hands, it makes
little sense to worry about what you can't change. Instead,
worry about what you can control
- you and your actions and
your thinking.
Points
To Remember:
Be
receptive to all possibilities. Most new ideas sounded
crazy the first time they were introduced.
Fear
of failure can be very powerful. It can cause you to
stay in a rut, to procrastinate, and to miss out on
opportunities to change your life. If you are dominated
by fear, learn to be brave.
Realize
that risk-taking is a necessary part of success. Learning
to negotiate risks leads to more self-confidence and
more triumphs along the road to the life you would like
to lead.
Always
be on the lookout for new opportunities.
Define success for yourself. Most people believe it's
about finding inner peace, satisfaction and emotional
balance, as well as financial stability. You can't achieve
those unless you start thinking out of the box. You
have to be willing to take some risks. You must be willing
to step out of your "comfort zone." This applies
to business as well as to your personal life.
Some Of The
Pillars Of Success:
Plan
your work, and work your plan!
Make
every effort to be the best you can be at what you do.
Don't compare yourself to others. Set your own goals.
When
you make a commitment, stick to it!
Acknowledge
that disappointments are part of life. Instead of allowing
setbacks to keep you from moving ahead, overcome them
and forge ahead. This will make you stronger.
Remember
that every experience, whether good or bad, can be a
learning experience. It's all in what you take from
it.
Live
each day as if it were your last; have no regrets.
Some
Final Words
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So
have you decided yet if you're a talker or a
doer? Do you wait for things to
happen to you at the whim of others, or do you make
them happen? Are you just thinking about how great your
future could be if only...? There is no better
time than right now to stop just thinking about
making a change that will secure your future success
and time. Right now is the time to do something about
it. Starting a home based business is one of the
easiest first steps you can take to begin working on
your financial independence.
You may have heard people derisively say, "Oh,
she's only looking out for number one." But be
honest. If you don't look out for yourself first, who
will? Are you ready to take control of your own destiny-to
look out for number one? I can help you find the path
to success, but you need to make the decision to take
the first step down that path. Your first step will
take you just a few minutes. Take the time to fill out
the form below to get started on your new path to success
today. Like my friend Melissa, you will discover a whole
new way of life that you never imagined-and a sense
of independence, confidence and accomplishment that
is beyond your fondest dreams.
Sincerely,
Cristina & Daniel Driscoll
(480) 288-0188
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